I am fully aware that love is traditionally given and received through touch. We hug and kiss, caress, and hold hands. This love, although romantic and exciting, is also physical. However, I find that more genuine and platonic love is often shown without physicality. I often feel this sort of love more intensely, and it makes me happier. I suppose you could call it charity.
I’m not sure what to call it, but I know that every so often I will feel this love transmitted from another person and it just makes me relaxed, calm, happy, and content. Do you know that feeling?
I first remember feeling it in the presence of an elementary school friend. I was probably in first or second grade, and I don’t remember anything about this friend other than the fact that she spoke so quietly and sweetly that I felt calm in her presence. My shoulders would relax, my happiness would increase, and an overall feeling of well being permeated my soul. I loved her soft voice, and I wished to speak as kindly as she did. I loved the way I felt when she spoke to me, with such care.
Over the years, this is the most frequent way that I would feel this friendly love, this sense of calm. I always marveled at the people I would meet that could cause me to feel this way. I would try for days after being in their presence to be like them, to speak with such calmness. I wanted to hold onto that feeling forever and to continue spreading that feeling of love to the world.
However, recently I felt that same love without even speaking to the person. I received it through the mail in a package. The package was wrapped with such flair and care that I could not help but feel special. A beautiful smell emanated from the package, and everything in it coordinated and screamed “I cared when I sent this to you.” I felt special upon receiving this package and that same sense of calm and peace just from knowing that I had been the recipient of love.
I what ways do you feel and/or transmit love without touch? Do you know that feeling I have described?
And how can we better show this love toward others? The new year is a time of resolutions and change, but I hardly ever make resolutions. I find that I’m a driven person with goals and aspirations. I don’t need a holiday or a special time of year to motivate me to change or to work harder at something. However, each year I want to be better at being more loving. I want to feel charity more often and toward everyone, not just my friends or those who are kind to me. I want to be somebody who is loving and kind. I’m definitely a work in progress.
Happy Valentine’s Day!