Freshly Pressed Is the Kiss of Death

Have you ever noticed that once your favorite blog gets Freshly Pressed, the posts stop coming?  I’ve seen this happen with several blogs, particularly those that I’ve thoroughly enjoyed and loved.

There was one particular blog that I found in my early days of blogging, back in the first part of 2012.  I absolutely loved this blog.  It had hilarious content and ideas that I could relate to.  The author and I are the same gender and are roughly the same age, so her experiences and her perspective felt connected to my own.  Each time she posted, I felt excited to read and I anticipated each new post anxiously.  I even shared some of her posts on Facebook.  I don’t do that often, but I found her content worthy of informing all (600 of) my closest friends!

As soon as this blog got Freshly Pressed, which happened soon after the blog was created, the content slowed and eventually stopped.  Disappointment.

And a little jealousy.  My goal was to be Freshly Pressed, too.  She had gotten there before me.  But I mostly just missed her posts.  I missed them so much.  But it seemed that as soon as the goal of getting Freshly Pressed had been reached, there was no longer a need to write.

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from Wikimedia Commons

Of course, the goal for many of us is to get noticed, to gain more “followers,” and to have large numbers of people reading, liking, and commenting on our posts.  That interaction with readers is what makes blogging fun, at least for me.  Naturally, many of us hope to get Freshly Pressed.  I know that it became my goal, as soon as I realized what it was and what it meant to have it happen.  I wouldn’t say that I wrote everything with the possibility of being Freshly Pressed in mind, for most of my early posts (as my posts now) were book reviews.  My blog was a way for me to practice writing and I wanted to practice writing what I knew most about.  That happened to be books.  My blog also became a way for me to keep track of and take extensive notes on what I had read, for I tend to forget my thoughts and ideas from books quickly after they are finished.

But occasionally, I’d post something and think, “Okay, this is it!  This one is going to be Freshly Pressed.”  It would sometimes be a book review (a brilliant one, of course) and sometimes it would be more of an observation on life or a clever exploration of my experiences with reading or parenting or teaching or writing.  But time after time, Freshly Pressed did not happen.

So, I wrote a letter to Freshly Pressed.  It was kind of a love letter.  Here it is:

 

Dear Freshly Pressed,

I’ve only been blogging since the beginning of the year, but my goal, since finding out you existed, has been to be seen by your editors.  It’s an admirable goal, one I’m sure most bloggers on WordPress aspire to.  It seems to be the holy grail of blogging, so why not reach for you?  But despite my best attempts, I have not yet cracked the code.  I’ve read everything I can from WordPress about how to catch Freshly Pressed’s eyes, but you’re just not that into me.  Maybe if I confronted you, you would say, “It’s not you.  It’s me.”

I am focusing on books, as they are my life and livelihood, so I realize the competition there.  It seems like there are way too many book bloggers.  Why should I stand out in any way?  But I do try to focus on a variety of books, covering both “classic” lit and more contemporary books.

I even exposed a family secret!  Gasp.  Yes, I wrote about the fact that my dad is gay and how growing up in the 80s and in a religious culture this was not welcome or cool news to anybody.  This post got the attention of many of my high school friends on Facebook—the voyeurs—but not you, Freshly Pressed.

Is it the time of day that I post?  I usually post in the mornings, first thing, on Tuesdays and Thursdays.  I read somewhere that as a blogger I should stick to a schedule to be consistent and predictable to my readers.  But when do you, Freshly Pressed, scout all of the topics for material?  Would late afternoon be better?  I can do late afternoon.

I also stopped using copyrighted pictures.  I know, I know.  How wrong of me!  I didn’t realize my mistake, but once I did, I quickly righted that wrong and started taking my own photos.  And, I started inserting them into every post at the largest possible size, something you, Freshly Pressed, recommended.  But my efforts went unrewarded.

Maybe the truth is I’m really not good enough.  I mean, I’ve read other Freshly Pressed articles and they are usually funny.  Very funny.  I am probably not funny enough.

I don’t really care.  Why would I want to be on Freshly Pressed?  Once your work is there, the thrill of trying to reach that goal is over and done.  I do not want to give up that feeling.  And, if picked, one only gets hundreds of comments and thousands of viewers.  Why would I want that?  I’m not posting my work on a public blog for people to actually read.  I just want to use it as a journaling space, where I can freely write whatever thoughts come into my important head without the benefits burden of stimulating banal conversation or being forced to actually interact online with other human beings.

So there.  I said it.  I don’t need you, Freshly Pressed.  It’s been a fun few months reading everything you’ve written, hanging on your every move, hoping that you’d notice me, and stalking your other friends.  But we’re done.  I’m through with you.  I’ll never look your way again or hope that someday I, humble glasses-wearing book blogger that I am, will catch your eye.  You had your chance.

Sincerely,

Emily J.

P.S.   Are you sure you don’t want me?

 

I never had the guts to post it.  And then I couldn’t post it because, guess what?  I got Freshly Pressed.  It had finally happened.  In one day, I got 4,424 views, when just the day before the most number of views I had gotten in a single day was 92.  I had more comments than I knew what to do with, but the conversation and the connections were amazing.  I had finally done it, after some five months of blogging, and it felt great!  I called my husband; he could hardly believe it.  He became obsessed with my statistics.  There was finally something to see in those numbers.

And then I kept on posting.  I had a goal of posting twice a week back then, and I stuck to it.  I didn’t let reaching my goal dampen my fervor for documenting my reading on my blog.

But it did make me a little obsessed.  I wanted to be Freshly Pressed, again!  Again, I went through those days of posting, where I’d think, “Today is the day.  My post is brilliant and just perfect for Freshly Pressed.”  And again, nothing would happen.  I would obsessively check Freshly Pressed and my email, just to make sure I hadn’t missed the alert that I would be featured on the home page.

Then some of my blogging friends, the ones I’d follow faithfully and cheer on through their posts, got Freshly Pressed.  I felt happy for them, knowing that I’d already had my turn.  But then they would stop posting.  They had reached the pinnacle of blogging, Freshly Pressed, and then they would stop.  I would suffer for lack of their uplifting/hilarious/clever/smart words in my life.  I began to see a pattern.

That Freshly Pressed is the kiss of death.

I say to those whose goal is to be Freshly Pressed: get there and then keep going.  Keep blogging.  If your content is good enough or clever enough or interesting enough to be featured on the home page, then we want to read more!  Don’t stop.

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from Wikimedia Commons

To those who haven’t been Freshly Pressed, don’t stop either.  Keep on posting.  Keep on writing.  Keep on inspiring the rest of us with your wisdom and your charm.  Freshly Pressed really isn’t everything.  Sure, the numbers spike for a while, but then they go back down.  You may get more “followers,” but not many of them stay and actually read regularly.  Your content is likely worthy of being Freshly Pressed, but perhaps, because of the large numbers of people blogging, yours hasn’t been noticed.  Yet.  Keep on trying.

I guess that’s easy for me to say since I have had the opportunity to be Freshly Pressed twice.  But it is also something I learned as a child.  When I competed in my first piano competition, I sucked.  I was in fourth grade and I went up against girls and boys who were playing beginning classical music.  I played some stupid piece called “Hoedown” from my lesson book.  I went home embarrassed and realizing that I had not given anybody a run for their money.  I had played a “baby song.”

So, what did I do?  Did I go home, sulk, and then quit piano lessons?   No.

I went home, began practicing an hour a day, and eventually switched piano teachers.  I had a goal to be as good as the other children the next year.  And I did it.  In two years, I was placing.  In three years, I was winning.  This has always been my reaction to “failure.”  I must try harder and work harder until I succeed.

Whatever you do, don’t give up if Freshly Pressed is your goal and you haven’t yet reached it.  Keep on trying.  And when you get there, don’t quit.  Freshly Pressed shouldn’t be the kiss of death.  Instead, it should be a success that motivates you to keep on writing and keep on connecting with the beautiful people on WordPress.

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  1. This is so funny because just yesterday I googled “How to get on Freshly Pressed in WordPress!” I am new to blogging and the number of blogs out there is overwhelming. I sometimes I feel like I will never get a decent number of followers. However, I love writing and am having so much fun. So thanks for the words of encouragement. If I ever make the list, I promise not to quit! 🙂

  2. for some of us it’s the awareness that we’re creating with this unique opportunity of blogging that counts and if Freshly Pressed, it’s only a yardstick to realize that now there’s a bigger audience.
    Thanks for your blog articles. learning to keep up a lot on my book reading and information mediums.

  3. I didn’t even know about freshly pressed. How out of the loop am I?
    My posts are generally just rants so I don’t think I’d ever make it. Perhaps if I started a different kind of blog, more serious maybe 🙂

  4. I’m new to blogging (a few weeks now) and clearly not Freshly Pressed with only three postings to my name. I was thinking that perhaps that honor creates an overwhelming amount of comments and followers for some, to the point that they give up. Too much, too fast and not enough time to respond. I think it’s easy to get obsessed with your blog and realize you’re spending far too much time watching it grow. And when it has a sudden growth spurt, you sort of freak out. I’m glad you haven’t given up. 🙂

  5. For some odd reason my blog got freshly pressed a month after I started blogging. It was a godsend and gave me the kick in the rump I needed to keep at it. Not a peep from the FP contingent since then, but I don’t care. I just keep plugging away because I love it.

  6. When I read the title in my email, all I could think about was Harry Potter (Kiss of Death). It surprises me that so many bloggers that have been Freshly Pressed discontinue their writing. The disappearing act happened with one particular blog I ran across and became (let’s be honest here) a little obsessed about because it was so darn funny. It’s a big let down when these talents seem to disappear from the face of the earth. Your letter was quite funny! Blog on!

    1. Thanks! I too get obsessed with blogs, especially the funny ones. I find that I’m attracted to blogs that aren’t the same as what I do or what I’m good at. I try to be funny on occasion, but I’m no comedian, so I’m drawn to those blogs that can do what I can’t. Thanks for the comment!

  7. I for one and am so happy you keep blogging! I love reading about books and you are insightful and funny. I don’t even know what Freshly Pressed is, but it makes me think of what my mom told me years ago about Katharine Hepburn, that once she got the best actress win she went into an acting dead zone. Maybe Freshly Pressed is the bloggers dead zone, at least temporarily. Of course, you are right, it doesn’t have to be the end of a blog. A blog should only end when the writer genuinely feels that they have exhausted their subject.

    1. I completely agree. And I think your Katharine Hepburn analogy is a good one. It could be the dead zone, or the feeling of too much pressure or expectation to keep going.

    1. Not just being freshly pressed, I would say everything people mostly do is towards a perceived achievement, once there, no one generally cares. Good or not, is subjective again.

      1. Oh, Emily, I enjoyed this one so much. Of course, since I am a cousin of, and therefore well acquainted with your dad, I had to stop and go to the link about that writing. You SHOULD be Freshly Pressed again (which I admit I’ve never heard of before this post). You have much in your life to be proud of, not the least of which is a charming, compassionate, kind, and “take care of business” dad. I really admire him so much! He juggles jobs, all sorts of projects, and takes care of his family–all marks of someone worthy of the respect and admiration of anyone! I enjoy your blogs, probably because books are my thing, as well. Keep writing–Freshly Pressed or not, they’re great!

  8. I’m fairly new to blogging. I started back in April. I haven’t been pressed yet, and although it would be nice, I try and not think about it. Yes, there are times when I wonder if ‘today will be the day’, but really it doesn’t matter. The readers that I have are very loyal and keep on commenting and liking and that’s the most important thing to me.

  9. I’ve kind of concluded that I’m not the type of blog to be Freshly Pressed. That’s OK, I don’t get a lot of hits but I find that the chance to try and be creative is cathartic. So in a sense that’s fine. But it is nice to get hits. 🙂

    You’re probably the only Freshly Pressed I’ve followed so I can’t really comment on whether it’s the kiss of death or not.

    1. It is okay to be that type of blog. Honestly, my husband and I sometimes make fun of the Freshly Pressed pieces. Not all of them are our cup of tea, so to speak. It is nice to get hits, though. By I promise they don’t last…

  10. Your post struck a chord with me because Freshly Pressed was almost the “Kiss of Death” for my blog. In fact, I even wrote a follow-up post titled “The Power of Freshly Pressed,” the first line of which read “ . . . and peril of the paralysis that follows.”

    You know how floodgates slam shut when a river rises? That’s what happened to me when the number of views on my stats page kept rising. As the “likes” and comments piled up, I shut down. I couldn’t bring myself to reply to comments until the next day.

    Even though it was exhilarating to know my work was being read by so many people, suddenly I felt empty. My Freshly Pressed piece had been an essay on the Jonah Lehrer plagiarism scandal and had taken a week of grueling effort to write. I was wrung out, totally not up to meeting anyone’s expectations for a repeat performance.

    The only thing that saved my blog from being Freshly Squashed was my husband’s eye doctor appointment. I had to take him across town and back because he’s too sensitive to light following the drops to drive afterward. Because it was the first cool, clear summer weather after weeks of oppressive heat, and because the doctor’s office is near the lakefront (Lake Michigan), I took along my camera to document Milwaukee’s beautiful day.

    This is what I wrote in my post about “recovering” from my Freshly Pressed experience: “Thank goodness I had the wits to subtitle my blog ‘Ideas on creativity, innovation, lifelong learning, and OTHER RANDOM STUFF.’ The Jonah Lehrer essay took me a week to write – and it was hard writing. I would have dilly-dallied quite a bit longer after its appearance on Freshly Pressed if I hadn’t felt free to follow up that substantial post with some ‘random stuff.’ Yesterday I was able to string together the photos I took Friday and call it a day. Boom. Post done. I was back!”

    Blog is short for weblog, and “weblog” originally referred to the phenomenon of “online diaries.” For me the only way to avoid the Freshly Pressed Kiss of Death was to return to thinking of my blog as more a diary than a “publication.” Although I appreciate my new blogging friends, I do think of them as “friends” rather than my “audience.” So now, instead of worrying about an “audience,” beyond the handful of friends I know are reading, I can write purely to please myself.

    And I’m having a blast.

    1. Katherine, this is fantastic! It is the perfect answer to this “phenomenon” I’ve seen. I can see how the essay you wrote, as wonderful as it was, could have paralyzed you with all the attention. A repeat performance would be scary and impossible. I also like how you describe blogging as a way to connect with “friends.” I concur. I think if we think of the people we connect with as an audience, it adds a layer of performance to our writing and of course stage fright would then follow! I’m seeing a lot of connections here to being on a stage, only it is online and maybe a lot more personal, with the diary aspect of it. Thank you so much for sharing your words and helping to answer my own confusion at why some of my favorite blogs disappear. I’m glad you are back and going strong! Keep it up.

      1. Emily, you are so smart! I hadn’t made the “stage fright” connection because that has never happened to me in the usual contexts. But it makes perfect sense that having an “audience” implies a performance, and once conversation/dialogue becomes theatre, why wouldn’t stage fright be a logical consequence!

  11. This is somewhat true for the blogs I have liked as well. The writing has slowed or completely stopped. But others I have read are going strong. But most of all, your post made me laugh. Funny how we all seem to get this bee in our bonnet that we must be freshly pressed and the thinking that a post is definitely fresh pressed worthy. Keep up the writing!

    1. A bee in the bonnet! Perfect description. Yes, I think most of us get obsessed with or are at least marginally aware of that goal. It isn’t a bad thing, but it is good to hear that some of the blogs you follow have continued after reaching it. I follow a few like that too. They inspire me.

  12. Glad you’re still writing! I agree with the earlier commenter who said that maybe it’s overwhelming when it happens. (I don’t know personally, of course.)

  13. Thanks for not letting FP slow you down! Oddly enough, when I look at the array of titles among The Chosen, I can’t see much of a pattern. Makes me wonder if the whole thing is done by some kind of algorithm. I hope not…

    1. Hmmm. Could be. It sure is “mysterious” how it happens. I’m sticking with chance. The “right” person has to see your post, which happened to have been posted at the “right” time in the “right” category.

  14. I have been writing my blog officially for over a year now, and I’ve never been in FP. At first it became a kind of goal, but it’s not that anymore. I enjoy blogging anyway, and while being in there would be nice, I do dread the huge amount of comments to reply to as well. I hope it would not stop me though.

  15. Emily, thanks for not letting your frequent fascination with freshness forbid you from your fountain of freshly fabricated feasts of words for your family and friends. Your Forever Fan

    1. LOL! I love the alliteration. I’m glad to know I have a fan! My husband always says that he’s my number one blog fan, so I, of course, tease him about it and how my very first reader was not him!

  16. I discovered your blog via the Freshly Pressed page when your “Writing While Wet” post was FPed. I’m really glad I did because I enjoy your blog a lot and otherwise I might not have found it, although I notice that we frequent some of the same blogs (101Books.net being an example).

    I had the joy of being FPed at the beginning of February. I found out when I clicked on the FP page before I went to bed and suddenly realized that it was my blog post at the top! I was so excited. I won’t include a link because, like you, I feel that it’s bad blogging etiquette! 😉 But being FPed, if anything, made me want to keep on blogging. It gave me a boost!

    1. I’ve noticed that, too! We do “run in the same blogging circles,” so to speak. I would like to see your Freshly Pressed piece, so please do leave a link here! How exciting for you. I’m glad it gave you a boost.

  17. Like you, the minute I found about about Freshly Pressed, I wanted it and I wanted it bad. I wrote and wrote and wrote and nothing. I saw several bloggers FP-ed multiple times and I couldn’t help but feel discouraged. And then I just stopped caring about it. I kept writing and engaging with other bloggers simply because I liked doing so.

    When I was FP-ed for the first time a few weeks ago, I was thrilled. A post I didn’t think was all that great made it to the top of the heap and so many people could relate to it. Comments and followers came pouring in and I found a renewed energy for blogging that I had been missing since the onset of summer.

    I am truly grateful for the recognition and becoming Freshly Pressed has been a very encouraging experience for me. Definitely not a kiss of death.

    1. What a great story! Good for you for sticking with it and for also not letting it be the kiss of death for your blog. Your description of the phases you went through honestly remind me of infertility (at least my experience with its stages). Sometimes when you stop “caring” is when results finally happen. 🙂

  18. i enjoyed this thought-provoking post, and i agree with the stage-fright idea. suddenly one doesn’t write just for the joy of writing, but knowing that many others will be waiting to see what follows. the feedback you’ve received for this one also illustrates the volume of work that also falls in the blogger’s lap – so much to read, absorb and then reply!

    thanks for this great post – it was like having a visit with you in person!

    1. Thanks for reading, Lisa! What a great compliment to have you say it was like a visit. Wouldn’t that be fun? And yes, stage fright for sure. I’m so glad the great comments contributed to that idea and in helping me make sense of what exactly goes through our blogging minds when both great and disappointing things happen.

      1. long ago i spoke to garden clubs as ‘a gardening artist,’ and i remember those moments of self doubt before i gave my first presentation. i pulled in my reins and said to myself, ‘these people are here because they think you have something interesting to share with them.. don’t let them down..’

        i never had qualms after that! i think one should present the same question after recovering from the freshly-pressed attention!

        1. Yes! That is brilliant. What good self-talk and true for such an occasion and for blogging. Those who come and comment are interested in what you have to say. Give yourself permission to be authentic and to share your thoughts and talents. I love this. I am going to think it now every time I give a public speech, lecture, or lesson, which, actually I do quite often. This will help!

  19. Wonderful post! I haven’t been featured on “Freshly Pressed” and to be entirely honest, I didn’t even know that part of WordPress existed. I began writing in order to prove to myself that I actually could. In the beginning, I was deathly afraid of posting my writing or recipes on any site. I didn’t think I was good enough. However, I’ve come to learn that this is all a learning experience. I write in order to become better!

    1. That’s wonderful, Melisa. And I do enjoy your blog! I hope learning about Freshly Pressed doesn’t make you crazy. Just keep plugging along and sharing your fantastic recipes. 🙂

  20. Man, I never noticed that people stopped blogging after fp. That’s too bad. Maybe it’s the pressure of all of those readers? Or the letdown when the stats fall back down? Or maybe it’s just that most blogs ebb and flow as motivation ebbs and flows. I originally found fp exciting and terrifying at the same time. I thought I would have lots of time to get the hang of things before anyone read a word. But I just went with it and found that blogging ended up being so fun with a community of awesome people. It’s definitely been very motivating for me every time it’s happened, but you need internal motivation to keep blogging, too–something more than approval and recognition that keeps you going. Hope your summer is going well, Emily! Nice post.

    1. Thanks, Rian. It is always nice to have you add your voice to the conversation. I agree with you that Freshly Pressed creates a community, much more quickly than if it didn’t happen. That part of it is fulfilling (at least for me), and I love your other thoughts on why others might stop or have a hard time dealing with the pressure. And you are spot on that there has to be some sort of internal motivation. So true.

  21. The idea sounds spot on. I’ve never been FP and I’m not sure I want it. However, it’s probably inevitable because I really like the weekly writing challenges and they pick posts from those. (On the other hand, I don’t write the kind of stuff that usually ends up there. And I ain’t changing.)

    But back to the topic: I think there may be another reason why blogs wither after being Freshly Pressed. It’s not just that the stats go back down; it’s the inevitable psychological result of getting a pile of viewers to one’s blog who decide not to stick around for more. When we start out, a lot of us probably think “I’ll get a huge following if I can just get enough people to look at my stuff.” After being FP, those thoughts surely have to die for many bloggers. People visit and perhaps they think the one post is special but the sentiment doesn’t translate to the rest of the blog.

    1. That’s really interesting. I can see how somebody would be disappointed if the new readers didn’t stick around. I’ve honestly experienced that myself. I think we all have. There are highs and lows! But that is what makes life (and blogging) fun, right?

  22. A new blogger – as many commenters seem to be – I’m just thrilled when someone (anyone!) likes/comments on a post. I can’t help it. It’s a bit like when you see someone likes your Facebook status. It means nothing and still thrills the pants off me to see the notification button all lit up. That said, I loved this. Thank you! It’s good to have the dream, but better to live in the moment and find something in each post you enjoy.

    1. Those are wise words. I am constantly trying to teach myself to live in the moment, and perhaps I have learned some of that through blogging! And yes, I am with you on being excited when somebody likes or comments. Those are thrilling moments indeed!

  23. I suspect that those that got FP’d likely would have stopped blogging anyway. It may have to do with placing too much importance on stats and unrealistic expectations in general. On the other hand, keeping up a blog is a discipline. I think many really start off strong then lose interest. Like you, I was FP’d twice. I can attest to the “high” of the moment when the stats race upward as comments and likes flood in. The glow lasts for a day or two as you sift through and answer the comments and keep checking your stats. Those stats quickly decline and you find that, stat wise, you are pretty much where you were before you were FP’d. That can be very disheartening to some. It reminds me of the old Andy Warhol quote, “In the future everyone will be world-famous for 15 minutes.” Scary…he was right on!

    1. Yes! This is excellent. Those blogs would have stopped anyway. This adds to Rian’s idea about internal motivation rather than external validation. And yes, those stats quickly go back down and settle at a nice, manageable, number.

    2. Oh, and I appreciate your mention of Warhol’s quote. I actually had a teeny bit of recognition outside of my blog for something I had written on my blog, and I kept saying, “It’s my 15 minutes!” 🙂

  24. I find it very interesting, the trend to stop blogging after one is Freshly Pressed. If Freshly Pressed was their goal from early on, then I could understand dropping off the grid shortly after the goal was reached. Yet, I cannot fathom how they didn’t come to actually enjoy blogging, if they were doing it so well as to be noticed by the editors. Perhaps a lot of people’s lives increase in busyness strangely co-correlates with their blog’s coincidence on Freshly Pressed. Who knows? Regardless, this was a great post and I found the letter to be particularly entertaining.

    1. Oh, thank you! Yes, perhaps all that blogging to reach Freshly Pressed would have been motivating, or maybe tiring! Maybe there is some burnout from posting so often and trying so hard to get recognized. I do like the above commenter’s ideas about motivation and discipline too.

  25. Fantastic post, Emily. And eerily aligned with what I wrote today about being Freshly Pressed, right down to saying, “that’s it – I’m going to be freshly pressed.” I got the notice just over a week ago, and I did feel the weight of expectations going into my next post. But I’m going to keep writing, even as the page views decline. If I feel myself slipping, I’ll remember your post! I don’t want my Freshly Pressed to be the kiss of death.

    1. Don’t let it be that for you! Keep writing. Do it for yourself. Enjoy the moment of many views, but let it pass and keep doing what you’re doing. Thanks for commenting, and I’m glad my words were timely for you!

  26. I need to remember that go home and try harder bit. My usual response to failure is “What’s a piano?” Pretending to forget entirely, usually before crawling into a whole with large amounts of caffeine. lol. So thank you for putting it so simply! If you fail, try harder.

  27. Loved your words, always tried to find a way to express myself and share ideas with others Facebook is very good, but the blog is much better.
       Here people are looking for you to interact, but since I’m only at the beginning still have much to learn. Rsrsrs…

    1. Good luck as you being your journey! And yes, I completely agree that blogging is a much better (and I think safer) way to share one’s thoughts and feelings. Overall, it has been a positive experience for me. I hope it is for you too.

  28. Wow, you got really many comments! It means the subject is quite important for you, bloggers who have a blog on wordpress. At first i didn’t understand what you are trying to say as i didn’t know what the Fresly Pressed! is. So i searched the word and understand. You are trying to say that you don’t want to give much intention to be selected a newl important or attention-getting blogger because you don’t it is really important in your life. You are qute true. I like your opinion.

    In fact, I posted a similar idea about the relationship between people. I posted about one of my acquaintaces who passed away five years ago and I didn’t realize his personality while he was alive. But he knew what are most important in our lives. It is not money, or job or success or people. It is the relationship between people who care each otehr. They try to encourage or support or lead the other because they know what the life is.They know we advance through hardships on life. But during hardships we feel desperate so they try to let us know there are something good after the hardship. After the hardship we can advance, our personality or our psychological deverlopment.

    Your main concern is literature and I guess it means you are trying to understand the life. And to do that, you need to work(think) seriously. But to be selected as Freshly Preesed make turn your attention to the other direction. It wasts your time and energy.

    As you know, the apperance on internet is one of our aspects. People tend to think their caracters on line are not similar to their off line characters. But is is not true. So if you really want to get developed in your life you must take care of your appearance on line also. Your writing can show yourself, and you can retorspect you own conscience through your writing.

    Wow, some long comment. I hope you like it.

    1. I do like your comment! And I like what you’ve said about relationships. It is so true that sometimes we don’t know the real person, or we don’t give them a chance in life. And you are right about hardships too. We all have them, and going through them can make us a better person. And I love the connection you make to literature and life. Yes, through literature I understand life because stories are life!

  29. What an interesting, honest and encouraging post! I’ve been aware of FP and secretly wanted to be featured, but I’ve since let that go since there is really nothing I can do (except to just keep writing). It’s interesting to speculate on the reasons that someone might stop blogging after FP. A couple of times my stats surged when I got syndicated on a couple of major websites. It was an exciting but also scary experience, as it felt like I was, for a moment anyway, moving from the safety and familiarity of my little “town” into the big and mean city. I got some nasty comments for the first time and although it was exciting to have more readers (for a time), it felt different, and I kind of felt like I had lost the comfort or intimacy and even “safety” I once enjoyed with a smaller group of readers.

    I love your bog and I’ve admired how you can stay so disciplined and consistent in writing, keeping up good quality, and responding so personally to each and every comment. It really was an inspiration to me this summer when I was struggling to stay motivated. Now, of course once I got re-motivated, I took another trip to visit my parents and pretty much went without internet for the last week and a half!

    1. P.S. It was very heartening to read about your feelings when a favorite blogger stops writing. I remember going through a period of time when I didn’t push myself to write because I didn’t think anyone would miss me – my stats were (are) not high and I didn’t get a lot of comments. And then a few months later a couple of my readers reached out to me to tell me they had missed me. Self-esteem can play such a big role in blogging as well…

    2. I like the small town versus big city metaphor. That is certainly apt! It was also nice to hear your feelings on having your blog traffic increase because of syndication. What an exciting thing to have happen, but yes, it would be scary too. Although seeing my stats go up is fun, I agree that the safety of one’s small “town” is nicer than the possibility of nasty comments and trolls.

  30. Emily,

    I like this post; it’s funny. Congratulations on the Press Award! I am brand new to this, with nine short blog posts. I am not sure about the standards for such standing, but you get my vote!

  31. As I approach 85,000 hits, 400+ followers and almost 1200 posts, for some reason, they don’t like me and are never going to Freshy Press me. Why? Maybe it’s just me. It’s probably personal. But glad YOU at least didn’t quit!

    1. Yes, it could. But other good things could happen each time you post, too. I find that consistency leads to your posts appearing in the tags and people seeing them, even if not through Freshly Pressed. Hang in there! Good luck. 🙂

  32. When I got Freshly Pressed my blogging stuttered, stopped for a while and has now picked back up again. But I didn’t stop because I felt like I’d reached a goal and no longer had to try, I stopped because I panicked. I was afraid I’d set up certain expectations and that readers and my followers would be disappointed if every subsequent post wasn’t as good or better than my FP post. I finally had to take a deep breath and realize that and not every post can be the best post, that that the only one with expectations was me.

    1. You are so right! We do put expectations on ourselves that nobody else is even thinking about. That completely applies beyond just blogging. And good for you for picking it back up again.

  33. Hi Emily — I’m a blogging virgin. (Or was until a few weeks ago.) Had never heard the term “freshly pressed.” But, like you, love reading and writing about books, so it is great to see there are some kindred spirits out there. Having fun with this and — while I haven’t got “freshly pressed” fever yet, I can see how it could happen. Keep up the great blogging. Love to see what you’re up to next.

    1. Thank you! I am happy to meet you and so glad to have you here. I wish you the best of luck with blogging. It is so much fun and I can’t imagine my life without it now.

  34. I liked this post so much. I feel exactly that way – hey, notice me! And then, well, never mind, I don’t care anyway. It is such an attractive goal, and then, when it doesn’t happen, it is dispiriting. But, thanks for the encouragement.

  35. This is an excellent post and I really enjoyed reding it and…thinking about!
    I have never been freshly pressed, I’m not a writer and I still need to find my voice. Why do I write my blog? I’m blogging for my passion of cooking, travel, colors, nature…
    What would happen if I would be freshly pressed? I would keep on writing my recipes, taking photos and so on!
    Nooo, noooo kiss of death for my blog!

  36. I just got Freshly Pressed. It’s a roller coaster of emotion. Slightly intimidating. I can see how it would scare people knowing there’s so many eyes on your soul-baring thoughts put into words with questionable talent. I looked up “Can I get Freshly Pressed more than once?” and it brought me here. I worried that reading this post would be a mistake, like a jinx. I don’t want this honour to be my kiss of death. But I’m pleasantly surprised, because this article was awesome. The solutions to everything seem to be “just keep writing,” with your addendum of “…things of value.”
    Thank you. That was perfect.

  37. My blog is about a year and a-half and 22 posts old and over the last couple of days, I have been throwing “how to get freshly pressed” into my google search bar. This is by far the most enlightening and entertaining articles on the subject I have come across. Thank you for the encouragement to just keep writing. (I already knew that, but the reminder is SO helpful, amiright?) I will remain hopeful and optimistic that the freshly pressed gods will trip over one of my titles. I also still occasionally buy lottery tickets. Thanks for the piece!

    1. You’re totally right! Write for yourself and stop worrying about it too much. I’ll keep my fingers crossed for you getting Freshly Pressed (and for the lottery). 🙂

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